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To Be, or Not to Be?

Sounds like a cliche quote, but: when depression creeps in, it can be a thought that looms over every minute of every day. A couple of months ago, I was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder following years of counseling, postpartum depression, and explaining the struggles I have faced. This diagnosis followed a period of time when I fell into a deep depression and began to act on suicidal thoughts. I felt like I had lost all control over myself and I was so sure I wanted to die, convinced that it was the ideal outcome for everyone in my life.

I’ve since recovered and accepted my diagnoses, determined to spend the rest of my life fighting it as necessary.

But as I look back on that day and so many before it, I wonder:

Why is it easier to imagine ending my life than changing it?

Why does it feel so simple to end my life than do something drastic to change it?

Wouldn’t I rather give LIVING a shot? Like a real shot, like an “I could die tomorrow” sort of shot.

Wouldn’t it be amazing if those who face depression could take it as a cue to make big changes, to try that much harder, to cut out the toxic parts of life and embrace what makes them happy?

I’ve read that depression can be used as a sign that something about our actions does not align with our ideals/end goals. And I find that so interesting.

It has led to a lot of self discovery and embracing a few new things in my life that bring me joy. It has prompted me to push myself to get more involved at church and build up the positives in my life while I explore some new interests.

Being a Mom is the greatest joy of my life, but I do feel like there is so much more to my story that I have yet to fulfill. Something is tugging at my heart and begging me to live out some big dreams. The struggle is: I’m not really sure what those ‘dreams’are. I’m ready to do something big-but raising children is the big thing I’ve always yearned for. I’m not saying it’s not enough-but I just know there is another element to my story right now, and as someone who felt like I did not deserve to be here, I’m ready to hand my life over to God’s will and live out his purposes for me.

Some of my greatest blessings have followed my greatest lows-lows that helped me readjust and commit to life all over again.

Depression can kill people, in spirit and literally. But it can also propel us forward. And even though it may not feel like it, there IS a choice.


  • “When we reach our lowest point, we are open to the greatest change.”

 

 

If I’m Being Honest

If I’m being honest, my life is about as put together as my toddler’s wooden puzzle: 3/4 pieces missing, probably for good. One piece in-tact, but chewed on, ink fading..I’m pretty sure it got peed on at some point. You get the picture.
BUT does this chaos in my life make me less than? DOes it render me “unusable”? Probably not.

Our Pastor shared a wonderful quote this morning:

“God does not call the equipped, he equips the called.”

And for the first time in a long time, I felt compelled to jot that down. Then a quick internet search led me to a few verses in the Bible:

26 Brothers and sisters, think of what you were when you were called.Not many of you were wise by human standards; not many were influential; not many were of noble birth. 27 But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. 28 God chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things—and the things that are not—to nullify the things that are, 29 so that no one may boast before him.   1 Corinthians 1:26-29 NIV

WHEW. I often feel like the circumstances I’ve faced, my response to them, my uncertainty, and my personality all add up to determine that I am NOT one to serve others. And holding that opinion of myself is what led to the end of my blog, the deleting of all depression related posts, and the focus on my artwork. Aside from feeling ill-equipped to share personal stories in the hopes of inspiring and reaching others, blogging helps put my thoughts into words–but serves no monetary purpose and arguably is not worth the time of a busy Mama.

But maybe I’m not ill-equipped. Maybe, what the depression sufferers, the miscarriage survivors, the new Mamas currenty having their world shaken upside down by kids, is someone who knows those hurts, and navigates them daily. For awhile, I lost sight of the value of my experience, and I deemed myself unworthy to share the TRUTH in spite of social(media) expectations. I decided that despite feeling called, blogging was not worth compromising my dignity by sharing incredibly personal details of my life. I decided it was not worth eventually having to talk to my children about the realities their mother faced when they were young.

A chance encounter with a woman who has been inspiring me for the last ten years has set me straight. She referenced my blog and applauded me…telling me I’m “amazing”. As she said this, I felt disbelief-because this woman has been inspiring me for years. She has risen out of circumstance to raise a beautiful, thoughtful, strong little girl. This woman is conquering demons and hardship left and right. I’ve often scrolled by her posts, reminded of the beauty and strength that is able to rise from ashes.

But I could never be inspired by her story if she didn’t share it. I wouldn’t know that people really do face the hardships she has faced, and I wouldn’t realize the beauty that could come from it.

God has been tugging at my heart to change something up for awhile, and I’m certain my place for this time is to share the personal truths of my journey in this world. 1. Because I’m willing. I really enjoy writing and putting it all into words-it’s super therapeutic. 2. I’ve been able to speak with women during Postpartum Depression because they know that I have experienced it. I’ve been able to reach out, remind them they are loved, and encourage them to seek professional help. All important lifelines in the midst of such darkness. 3. I do not believe that I am the best person for this job. I don’t know that I consider myself “stable” enough to guide anyone else…but that is not my intention. I really believe God can use what I have to say to help others who face similar demons, or even just to offer them a lifeline for when they do. I want to be a light for God, but I cannot do that if I’m hiding from it myself.

If you’re reading this, I encourage you to do the same-embrace what God is calling you to do for His kingdom. God chooses imperfect people to carry out his perfect plan. Stop thinking you’re unworthy-Remember that He sent His Son to die for YOU.

You Can Find My Latest Painting…

…on the cover of Jean Claar Bassett’s latest book!
​I am so thrilled to finally share the big news- Back in August, my sister in law put me in touch with a Pittsburgh author in need of an artist to create her latest book cover for a mystery intended for kids ages 8-12.
Of course, I wanted to be able to do this, but really doubted that I would be capable of producing her vision- especially amidst pregnancy keeping me miserable and out of the art studio.

Nevertheless, I gave it my best attempt, and was virtually introduced to Jean Claar Bassett. Jean and I were complete strangers, but spent the next month in almost constant contact via email. She described the potential scenes she would like on the cover and I opted for one that I felt I could better execute(because it didn’t involve people). I sent her sketches to try to give her an idea of what I was imagining and we tweaked them until I had a clearer vision of her plans for the cover.

Ace and I up late, working on the original plan for the cover, which involved the main character and his best friend riding bikes.

The process was nearing the end when I realized that maybe I actually could create a completely different scene from the one we had been working on to give her the human impressionist-like faces she desired for the cover. So, we started over. I read the description of the scene from the book, got Jean’s input, and sent along more sketches. When it was time to paint, we spent several emails discussing color, and I went to work.

This is one of the initial sketches done for the cover.

The initial painting changed a couple of times based on Jean’s needs for the cover but eventually, we had a finished product and the painting was professionally photographed to be sent out for the cover!

Finished product in my studio waiting to become a book cover!

 The end of the journey was an exciting one for me, knowing I had actually accomplished something I was sure would end with Jean telling me my painting was not what she intended for the cover. I gave it my best and it felt good to know it worked out and it felt great to hand my parents a copy of the book with my name printed inside!

A copy of the finished product!

 I have to admit that at the time, the process was entirely new to me and trying to discuss art with a perfect stranger was challenging as this was the first time I was painting something so specific for someone. However, Jean is one of the nicest women I have ever met and was incredibly patient throughout the entire process. I was fortunate enough to finally meet up with her at her church and hand deliver the painting that we had both spent so much time working on. Jean’s personality and talents are just incredible and even more so than having my painting published in a book, I am thankful to know her. I’m looking forward to reading the rest of the book without artistry in mind!
If you’d like to read Jean’s latest book, it is available for purchase through Amazon: Click here to purchase Elijah Cross Mysteries by Jean Claar Bassett!